Flight of Four: Who You Are (and How to Be Better)


Let's nerd out about personalities for a second, shall we? I'm a HUGE fan of all things personality, and find it fascinating to dive into different aspects of how I'm wired and how it affects my life, work, faith, relationships, and literally everything else about my life. These four books are helpful tools in that self-discovery process, although I don't take any of these personality models to be absolute gospel truth! They really are just ways to help you better understand who you are, why you are the way you are, and how you can grow to be a truer, healthier, and ultimately the best version of yourself.

If you're into these things like me, comment below with all of your personality types!

I'll go first -- I'm an enneagram 1 with a 2 wing, an INFJ, a highly sensitive person, a Ravenclaw, my Strengths Finder strengths are responsibility, empathy, connectedness, intellection, and belief, I'm a taurus, I'm a rebel (one of Gretchen Rubin's four tendencies)... I think that's it. ;)

Today's flight of four: who you are (and how to be better)

The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective by Richard Rohr // Rohr is the most common name associated with the enneagram, and I was looking forward to reading his take on the whole personality type system. This book is dense, but it's brilliant and helpful and so, so good. I didn't read this one cover to cover (mostly just all the really fascinating introductory material, the chapter on my type, and all the really really intriguing deeper theories and thoughts about the subtleties of the types found toward the end!) but it's one I highly recommend, for sure.

The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too) by Gretchen Rubin // This book is chock-full of straight up WISDOM. I'm a big Rubin fan already (her book Better than Before is where this original concept came from!) so I preordered this one way in advance! The four tendencies relate to how you handle expectations, both inner and outer. The types are: obliger, upholder, rebel, and questioner. I'm a rebel through and through, which makes life reaaaaaally interesting, ha! This book gave me so much helpful insight into the way my tendencies play out in my life, how to still get things done, how to understand others, how to stay motivated, etc. I was underlining and highlighting SO much of this book and found it so incredibly enlightening! If you're somebody that gets skeptical about personality types or feels boxed in by them, I'd still encourage you to give this one a read, since it's much more about understanding your habits and tendencies than it is about trying to give you a label.

The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine N. Aron // This book is one of the ones that just felt like such a gift to me -- one that left me feeling SO much less alone and less insane for feeling the way I do about the world around me. It's so well-researched, really accessible, incredibly interesting and helpful, and really a fascinating guide to how to live in the world as somebody who is highly sensitive. If you think that might be you at all, I can't recommend this one enough. (And there are quizzes throughout to help you understand yourself better!)

The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self Discovery by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile // This book is really easy to read, really fresh, brand-new so it's super culturally relevant, and just a fantastic resource. I've already bought this one for friends and they've loved it too-- it's a great place to start that won't feel intimidating or too overwhelming.